Nothing in the world troubles you more than your own thoughts.
Our mind is a powerful thing. It can sow the seeds you want, be it positive or negative and the change will start inflicting upon your life. A thought of despair can bring you down to nothing and a thought of motivation to do something can turn your life around. Life isn’t that complicated but it is we who make it so just by our own web of thoughts. We constantly let others control our life and our actions depends on their judgements.
Our mind is nothing more than a bunch of muscles which are there to assist us in doing what and how we want. It is we who are the masters and not the mind. These muscles get trained by our repeated thoughts, actions and experiences. Unknowingly we are training it every day and to do it right we need to do it consciously to get what we want because it is a beautiful servant but a dangerous master.
If we start believing that brain only presents us with illusions and we can get around it, we will. Look at all your problems just like illusions but indeed if you look closely they are. They are there for some time till you get out of them and many will keep presenting them in the future and will pass too. So, why get stuck and why repent on things that have happened in the past. We can’t change it and thinking or pondering over how it could have been different will do no good but will keep you stuck. Don’t hold back the memories of past that cause you to feel regrets because then your mind will keep repeating the tapes that can only bring you pain and trouble. Your body knows how to move forward but it is our mind that holds you back and a distance is created between your mind and your body. This distance will prevent you from going happy in life.
Trust me the fault in doing so is not entirely yours. People are generous in sharing their nonsense and ignorance and because our mind needs constant fuel, we tend to feed it with the wrong fuel by being in the company of such people. People will always be eager to feed you their negativity but it is you who is the better judge to not let your mind feed on the wrong fuel. Whatever we plant or let plant by others in our mind becomes the reality of us.
Ships don’t sink because of the water around them but by the water that gets in. Don’t let the happenings around you affect your mind and weigh you down. Create a wall of repeated thoughts to feed your mind the right path. You need to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is the power to cultivate your mind in controlling your inner world because you can’t have control over what happens in the outer world.
Our emotions play a great role in controlling our mind. The mind will keep playing the events that touched you in the past or that have hurt your heart. It happens because often our heart takes more time to accept what our mind already knows. Compartmentalizing your thoughts derived from emotions is important so that your mind doesn’t get affected by the insignificant actions of others. Your emotions will obstruct the process of change in your mind to delete such events and move on. So, taking charge of your emotions and not let them govern you is vital. Your mind, emotions and body are instruments that if you align them well, will play the best tunes of your life.
How to Control your Mind?
1. By not trying to control everything
If you try to control everything and then worry about the things you can’t control, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and misery. Life becomes simple when you don’t try to control everyone and everything. Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes and resisting them will only cause pain and suffering in your life. Doing your best and believing in the higher power is the only easy way out. The more you try to control something is the more you are letting it control you. So, simply break the shackles of worry and let it take the natural course of life.
2. Let go of the Fear
Fear initiates the fight in your thoughts and response. It creates worry in the mind and anxiety in the body. This may make it more difficult for you to control your thoughts effectively. Letting go of the fear and accepting the situation with calm mind will help you gain control over the anxiety created in your mind due to fear.
Remind yourself that many situations in your life has this effect and you did overcome them then you can do it again.
3. Living in the past
Forgive the past and let it go coz’ it’s over. Whatever has happened before in your life, you can’t change it. The advantage is that you have experience now to deal with them in a better way. Pondering over what you have faced in the past is likely to happen in the future too be a waste of time. Let it all be in the past. Live in the present rightfully to make your future better.
4. Putting yourself down/Self-doubt
It is not who you are that holds you back but who you believe you are not.
Doubt kills more dreams than failure. Imagine how much you can achieve once you stop doubting yourself. Your strengths and talent will take you where you want to go. The biggest wall that you have to climb is the one in your mind about doubt in yourself. Self-doubt hasn’t taken you anywhere throughout your life then why do it? Believe in yourself and say it out loud every time it haunts you that “you can do it”.
It is okay to be afraid but taking action even while you are afraid will bring you out of your misery. Will power is the key to achieve what you want. When you choose to do it despite your doubts is when you pave the way for success.
5. Not Overthinking Everything
Overthinking is simply the art of creating new problems. Overthinking in our mind creates thoughts that are not true. It makes us assume things that may be are not there. We lose the sight of truth and land up taking decisions that we regret later. Letting yourself fall victim to overthinking doesn’t just kill your happiness but it destroys who you are. Our mind is beautiful and the only person who can hurt it is us, by giving into the temptations of overthinking. While overthinking remind yourself that you can’t control everything. All you need to be focused on is to do your part in the best possible way and leave the rest on destiny.
If you can’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do either. Don’t let your thoughts bully you. Your mind is a powerful force and you can decide if you want to be enslaved or empowered by it. Controlling your mind and thoughts is vital as it controls your life. Your thoughts affect your mood and that affects how you behave. Your behavior determines what you get. You control your mind and you can control your destiny. If you can’t change your mind, you are not using it.